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January 16, 2006

Bigger fish to fry

More and more I am finding that the reason so many of my acquaintances won't consider voting Conservative, even though they "want the Liberals to be punished", is same-sex marriage. This annoys and confuses me, because the most strident mainstream anti-SSM platform out there — the Conservatives' — proposes to extend basically identical tangible benefits to gay couples and straight ones. So the difference between the status quo and the hypothetically anti-SSM result of Harper's free vote is the use of the word "marriage" in the relevant legislation, full stop.

Ah, people will say, but separate is never equal. Perhaps not, but Bill C-38 didn't change a thing in that regard. The idea that the Canadian government can legislate equality in marriage presupposes that it can influence Canadian morality, and that the strength of any given union derives from its sanctioning by the government, as opposed to its acceptance by family, friends, religion, and society at large. Which is crazy. Same-sex couples, having lost their free vote, wouldn't suddenly be shunned by their heretofore accepting family and friends. They wouldn't stop thinking of or referring to themselves as married. And as it currently stands, 60-odd percent of the Canadian population still thinks of their marriages as profoundly different things, at best, than the regular kind.

Nothing significant has changed since the introduction of SSM, in other words, and nothing significant will change if the Conservatives "win" their free vote and institute civil unions instead. With apologies to same-sex couples who value the Prime Minister's approval over society's, and to perfervid traditional marriage types who perceive other people's happiness as a threat to their own, this just isn't that big of a deal.

This cuts both ways, of course. A big part of me wishes that Harper had just let this very tired dog lie, and I think his party would be polling even better in Ontario and Quebec if he had. On the other hand, that position essentially sanctions a whipped vote on a social issue that millions of Canadians feel quite passionately about — one that went very pointedly against public opinion. I'm not too comfortable with that either, and could be convinced that such votes are far more important an issue for our democracy than whether the certificates issued to same-sex couples say "marriage" or "civil union" on them.

Basically I guess I'm suggesting that these people (my acquaintances) are latching on to same-sex-marriage, to which they hadn't devoted a moment's thought until 2003 at the earliest, to avoid reconsideration of their ingrained Torontonian predilection to vote for the left-most centrist candidate, which in turn betrays a fear of change most unbecoming of people their age. But I certainly welcome protests to the contrary.

[UPDATE January 17: Plenty of protests.]

Posted by Chris Selley at January 16, 2006 08:06 PM

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Protest!

Same-sex marriage is the number one reason why I wouldn't vote Conservative.

While I am in favour of same-sex marriage, full stop, I will admit the Conservatives position in favour of same-sex unions is roughly equivalent to New Labour's recently introduced legislation -- legislation that was viewed in that country as quite progressive.
But a) There is a difference between not giving a right or privilege and rescinding a right or a privilege. So, in this respect, I found the Conservative position on SSM last election less troublesome;
b) I am really, really, really tired of the same-sex marriage debate and do not want it yanked out into public again, so that I have to listen to a million impassioned pleas about a word that means different things to different people once more...
And c) Part of the Harper plan for cutting the kid in half is that same-sex couples who have already married will get to keep their "marriages." This is ridiculous. Even if same-sex marriage is taken away, there will still be same-sex marriage. There will therefore be two different classes of legally recognized same-sex couples, an unequal situation that surely wouldn't hold up in the courts.

So, for the sake of a word, the Conservatives want to re-open an old battle and, if they actually win their free vote, will enact sloppy legislation that will launch a whole bunch of lawsuits.

The Conservative policy on same-sex marriage isn't hateful or homophobic; it's just a gigantic, stupid can of worms.

Posted by: JKelly at January 17, 2006 03:13 AM

Roughly in order of importance:

1) I view Harper's policy as an effort to bring out the homophobe vote. I don't think that all those who oppose what I see to be the modern, practical definition of marriage are necessarily homophobes, but I think the CPC policy's only exist to court queer haters. I also don't believe that the majority of those who are against SSM actually care that much one way or another, and the CPC is trying to stir up some nasty impulses.

2) I don't think so-called "free-votes" are especially democratic, particularly on issues like this. Free votes swap the responsibility to balance the best course for country, riding, party, and individual MP's career when voting in parliament, for a tyrannic oligarchy of 300-odd.

3) If Harper's policy was take the feds out of the marriage game all-together, and retroactively make all marriages "civil unions" in the eyes of the law (which is something like what Klein did in Alberta, no?) then that would take the issue off the table for me.

But that's just me.

Posted by: Eric Grant at January 17, 2006 09:10 AM

There is a long thread over at Comments Please started by Adam Radwanski, who refeences this post, for anyone who wants to watch or contribute.

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